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The “Oughts” of Life

Line 1It is hard to live in the present. The past and the future keep harassing us. The past with guilt the future would worries. So many things have happened in our lives about which we feel uneasy, regretful, angry, confused, or, at least, ambivalent. And all these feelings are often colored by guilt. Guilt says: “You ought to have done something other than what you did ; You ought to have said something other than what you said. These “oughts” keep us feeling guilty about the path and prevent us from being fully present to the moment.

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It is hard to live in the present without the past and the future harassing us. Our past burdens us with guilt the future with worries. So many things have happened in our lives about which we feel uneasy, regretful, angry, or confused. And all these feelings are often colored by guilt. Nouwen tells us: “Guilt says: You ought to have done something other than what you did ; You ought to have said something other than what you said. These “oughts” keep us feeling guilty about the path and prevent us from being fully present to the moment.” We need to flee from this guilt.

When I was growing up, it seems that a lot of people had a plan for my life. When college came around there were people who knew without a doubt what I should pursue .Others knew what I ought to do, and if for some reason I disagreed they were disappointed and wanted me, by accident or design, to feel guilty. As you get older these things fade into the background only to be replaced by other “oughts,” but they continued to be the guilt producing hindrances of life.

The next great guilt producing ought is the future. What should I do to prepare for the future? Am I proactive enough to be truly prepared? Is my profession disappearing? These sorts of questions wreck happiness and productivity in the now. That is not what God wants for his creation. I am convinced of that beyond a doubt.

A few years ago Christian writer, Tony Campolo, wrote a book titled-Carpe Diem- Seize the Day. That is what our creator wants for us. He desires that we live each day to the fullest with optimism about the future and peace with the past. We must grab the day and live it for the glory of God and our own self being. We spend far too much time analyzing and not enough time living. The key is to grasp the idea that as we seek the kingdom of God all else will come clear. Our primary direction has to be looking toward a loving and forgiving God who forgives the past and holds the future. He told Jeremiah ,”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” He went on to tell the exiles to prosper in the land where they were exiled.  We must accept the forgiveness of God , live the day, and not fear the future.

May God give you the strength to see life in such a way.

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Prayer

Lord, I come to you in this time of fear and confusion and ask you to give me the strength to live this day to the fullest. Allow me to enjoy and relish the blessings that you have given me. Might I call upon your might to climb the hills and navigate the uneven ground that is before me. Might I never lose sight of the importance and blessing of each day of life.

Amen

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None is Higher than Hospitality

Midweek 14-2‌Henri Nouwen, the great spiritual writer, was going to a monastery for a retreat. The monks observed vows of silence and the retreat was to be meditative and prayerful. Nouwen was delayed and was late getting to the Monastery on a very unwelcoming miserable, rainy night. Upon his arrival, he rang the bell and was met at the door by one of the brothers. He warmly greeted Henri, took his wet coat, took him to the kitchen and made him a cup of tea. They chatted into the late-night hours and Nouwen began to relax and feel ready for the retreat. He knew this monk was supposed to observe silence, so he finally asked him, “Why are you willing to sit and talk with me?” The monk replied, “Of all the duties of the Christian faith and the rules of my order, none is higher than hospitality.”

The church is a community as well, and hospitality should be a primary focus. Today’s church should be a place of welcome to all who come our way. There should be no connotation that only “rule followers” are welcome at the church. I fear that we have forgotten the concept of radical hospitality and confused it with assimilation into our group. If the church is to practice true hospitality, it must practice inclusiveness. That means no one is barred from total participation in the life of the church. I am concerned that we have lost sight of a most important tenet of Christianity. I thank the monastics for giving us a reminder.

Not only the churches but our homes and personal spaces should be welcoming. We should be ready to help and greet those who come our way. In doing so, we welcome God and reap the benefit. I believe that hospitality is at the core of Christianity. It is of the highest of the practices of our faith.

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Lord, help me to remember that the open door of hospitality can have eternal consequences. Let me practice the open door in my heart so that I may reap the reward of plenty that comes to those who truly share with their brothers and sisters. Give me the gift of never considering a stranger as strange and unworthy.

Amen

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A New Beginning

A new beginning! We must learn to live each day, each hour, yes, each minute as a new beginning, as an opportunity to make everything new. Imagine that we could live each moment as a moment pregnant with new life. Imagine that we could live each day as a day full of promises. Imagine that we could walk through the new year always listening to a voice saying to us: “I have a gift for you and can’t wait for you to see it!” Imagine.

~~~Henri J.M. Nouwen


What a concept for us to digest in these uncertain and difficult times! We all dream of a new beginning where we can leave all our anxieties and problems behind to never be visited again. Our new beginning means that we are fresh and, perhaps, reborn. Jesus does give us this promise in his discourse with Nicodemus when he says that a person must be “born again” to enter into the kingdom. The emphasis is one of a spiritual rebirth. Most of us can understand spiritual rebirth but what about a real new beginning.

I would venture to say that a spiritual rebirth is the beginning of our new beginning. What must follow is a faith-soaked belief that we are living as a new person. That indeed all things have passed away and are becoming new. The most difficult and demanding part of the Christian journey is to allow yourself to accept the grace of God and have a new beginning every day we live. Nouwen put it so beautifully when he says, “Imagine that we could live each moment as a moment pregnant with new life.” Picture that – a day pregnant with new life!

We can live a day that is full of promises that are all good. I am not trying to say that bad things will not happen, but I will say that God promises a good outcome. Our creator protects and equips us for all we encounter. The worst that the world can send our way, we can handle. We process all things by not allowing the darkness and gloom of past failure to bring clouds and thunder to our new day. With confidence we claim God’s grace and power this day and know that it is indeed a new beginning. That is the good promise of God.

God does have a gift for you and me. The gift is that he is with us always until the end of time. God’s gift is that his Kingdom will come on earth as it is in heaven. These are solid promises of Scripture that we often neglect. As we learn to not neglect them, we can achieve a new beginning every day, every hour, every minute because we are the crown of His creation. Our God wants us to live and thrive and show forth his image to the world.


Prayer

Lord, This is indeed a day of new beginning. We begin each day with the freshness of the morning dew and the hope of the good we can experience and accomplish. Do not allow the evil of this world to pollute and taint that which you have bestowed upon us. Strip the evil one of the power of gaining control of us, and let your spirit so shine in us as to be a light for others to see. Give us opportunities to love and serve as we travel our journey.

Amen

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Let the Son Show the Way

“While my friend always spoke about the sun, I kept speaking about the clouds, until one day I realized that it was the sun that allowed me to see the clouds.”
   

—Henri Nouwen

What will your topic of conversation be today?

 

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The Voice

But what I would like to say is that the spiritual life is a life in which you gradually learn to listen to a voice that says something else, that says, “You are the beloved and on you my favor rests.”… I want you to hear that voice. It is not a very loud voice because it is an intimate voice. It comes from a very deep place. It is soft and gentle. I want you to gradually hear that voice. We both have to hear that voice and to claim for ourselves that that voice speaks the truth, our truth. It tells us who we are. That is where the spiritual life starts – by claiming the voice that calls us the beloved.

 

———Henri J. M. Nouwen

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Friendship

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“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.”

― Henri J.M. Nouwen

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